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4 inches and growing!!  Mira should be able to feel the baby in the next few weeks to come.  We have been busy trying to think of a name for our first born.  We have 4 letters to choose from “S, P, K, M”  for either a boy or girl any of those letters will do.  Personally I’d like my children to have a middle name too, so this is going to be fun coming up with two names per child.  We will deal with the first baby first HAHA!!

“You may be able to find out the sex of your baby by ultrasound now, since the external genitals may be developed enough that the ultrasound technician can tell you if you’re going to have a boy or a girl.” Read more here.

Hopefully there will be some ultrasound pictures to post next week. 
March 9th is coming quick.

We are well into the second trimester now. Mira is feeling well has some uncomfortable days now and then, but mainly she stays active with cooking and doing things around the house. She is getting used to all the blood tests she has to have done, she is/was very afraid of needles, but now is not as afraid as she used to be while living in India. While there all her needles went into her bum, (other than for blood tests). So she was terrified of being able to see the needle before going into your arm. The nurse told her there are MANY more tests to happen in the coming months HAHA. Poor Mira..

“About now, the fetus can grasp, squint, frown, and grimace. It may even be able to suck its thumb. Researchers believe these and other movements probably correspond to the development of impulses in the brain.” Read more here.

Posts in March should be more exciting we have our ultrasound appointment set for the 9th.  We are looking forward to “seeing” our baby now *smile*.

w00t!! Second Trimester and that little one is growing fast..  Grew a whole inch in the last week.  Mira is doing great, showing a baby bump and all (she’s too shy for a picture to be posted) she sleeps well and doesn’t seem to be having those sick days as before, although she does “feel” like she will puke she hasn’t for quite a few days now.

“The fetus is now nearly 3 inches / 7 to 8 centimetres long from crown to rump and weighs nearly an ounce / 23 grams — about half a banana. Its unique fingerprints are already in place. And when you poke your stomach gently and she feels it, your baby will start rooting — that is, act as if she’s searching for a nipple.” More here.

All is well, we are looking forward to the Ultrasound appointment set for March 9th, should be exciting.

Wow nothing too exciting to post other than First Trimester done and we are on the Second Trimester now.  Mira has had to go do more blood tests, ultrasound is setup for the first half of March.  Gyno says everything looks good.  I will post any news as it comes though.  We are more and more excited as eacg day goes by.

“Your baby’s face is beginning to look more human, even though she is only about 2 inches/5.5cms long from her crown to her rump and weighs slightly less than half an ounce/ 14 grams.” Please read more here or here.

Second Trimester here we come!!!

I heard my babies heart beat today at the gyno’s.. 

She used some hand held doppler device on my wifes tummy and we heard the swooshing heart beat for the first time today.

“Your baby is now fully formed, from toothbuds to toenails and measures about the length of your thumb.” Read more here.

I didn’t have a recording device with me to show you all, but I did find what a babies heart beat sounds like at 11 weeks here.

Well nothing too exciting to report for this week.  Except maybe that Mira is starting to show more of a baby bump now.

She has continued experiencing the dreaded “Morning Sickness”,  which I still don’t understand why they call “Morning Sickness”.  Mira has cravings for all kinds of foods now too,  McD’s fries and Cheesburgers is one of them.

“Measuring from the crown of his head to his rump, your 1.5-inch/ 4-centimetre fetus has all his parts, from tooth buds to toenails. Your baby is busy kicking and stretching; his movements are so fluid they look like water ballet. Fingers and toes have fully separated.” Please read more here or here.

We have an appointment with the Gyno on Monday the 8th,  I will post what we find out then in the next weeks update. I look forward to getting an ultra sound setup soon. wOOt!!

Wow! my baby has vital organs now..  This is too exciting, Baby Mudhar has a fully formed and functional brain.. well I wonder what he is thinking  hehe. We have been getting a lot of people trying to guess the sex of the baby from “signs” they see, and hear about what Mira is going through. Will be interesting if they are right, but with choosing a boy or a girl the choices are limited.

“The vital organs — the liver, kidneys, intestines, brain, and lungs — are fully formed and functional, while the head is almost half the length of the entire body. The forehead temporarily bulges and sits high on the head, but later will change into a more human-like feature.” Please read more here.

Maybe we should have some sort of Baby Pool going on..  and you can guess the Weight, Date and Time of Birth and why not the sex too. Leave a comment with your guesses 

What a roller coaster of emotions Mira has been through this last week. One day feeling GREAT! doing some chores and back in the kitchen cooking, and also finding her appetite. To the next day just wanting to sleep or having aches and pains. I have been rubbing and massaging her aches away as best I can.

“At week’s end, your fetus measures approximately 0.9 inches / 2.3 centimetres long. In both shape and size, it resembles a pea-pod and weighs less than a tenth of an ounce / 2 grams.”  Read more here.

The sad part of her finding her appetite is, that she also found out what morning sickness is. Still haven’t figured out why they call it morning sickness though, As it happens at any time of the day. We are hoping for a smooth completion of the first 3 months, and look forward to healthy final months. We will be seeing the Doctor again the first week of February.

w00t!! Week 8 and counting.. 
I suppose this is an important week according to babycenter.ca

“Congratulations — your embryo is now called a fetus, which means “offspring”. Your uterus expands to accommodate its new resident, which now measures approximately five-eights of an inch / 1.6 centimetres.” Please read more here.

Mira is having all the feelings associated with being pregnant now, from morning sickness (doesn’t always happen in the mornings though HAHA!!) to being tired when she lays down or sits up or stands too long, She craves everything but can’t have more than one bite before she is full lol.

We have been to the Doctors now and he confirmed our test results.
Week 7 and things are going well. Mira has been showing some signs of morning sickness now and then.
She has been feeling tired and sleepy when she has been on her feet too long.

“Now about one half of an inch / 1.25 centimetres long, the size of a lentil. the embryo has distinct, slightly webbed fingers and toes. It’s a jumping bean, moving in fits and starts. The liver is churning out large amounts of red blood cells until the bone marrow forms and takes over this role.”

Please read more here.

We have already started thinking about names, and Mira wants it to be a surprise, But I want to know as soon as I can.

YES!! Mira and I are 6 weeks into becoming Parents. We personally tested and found out just last Sunday Dec 27th.

If all the due date and conception calculators we have found online are accurate. Conception would have been between Nov 28th-Dec 2nd 2009 We are expecting our bundle of joy by August 25th 2010 (Again assuming what we found online is accurate)

Appointments with doctors will be this upcoming weeks..

I will be keeping you all updated weekly or as often as I need to tell you all anything.. Have a read here till then.

I bet that may have gotten your attention… But I didn’t want to make a pre-mature  post about this.. and I still don’t know just how permanent it will be… but I’d like to share with you that I have been made the Graveyard Shift Charge Hand.. where I work.

I have been at A.I. Ind. since May 2006 and have learned a lot of different things and how they run their operations.  This position is special for me since I have just completed my apprenticeship just last April 2008. I have full control of the shift and make all decisions pertaining to who does what and setting up the next day shifts priorities. While it is a new position for me I hope to grow in my position and get more involved with the company’s day to day planning. Wish me luck in continuing with success, I may need just a little bit from everyone.

** On a side note my wife and I are doing great.  She and I have started on a strict regiment of healthy eating.  She has helped my mother, father, herself and I, lose inches and ponds off since about mid August 2009. I am happy to report I have lost about 25 lbs and many inches.. my wife has lost 15 pounds and even more inches.. **

WOW WOW WOW!!!  I can’t belive I didn’t post a thing in 2008…

I shall try to do some regular postings in the new year!!

I hope 2009 will be a Great one for EVERYONE!!!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!  2009!!!!!!  WHOO  HOO!!!

HAHA Yes an Update of sorts….. but not what you may all be thinking or wanting to read..

First of all…

My wife and I are in India. Yes Just 22 days after she finally arrived in Canada… we are Back in India. and What an Adventure it has been since day one of arriving. Can’t say too much YET.. but do look for the “FULL STORY” once I am back home in Canada. Some may laugh… many may stop reading my blog.. but what I write will be a Factual Story a factual adventure. nothing fictional.

Look for My “INDIA ADVENTURE 2007/2008″ coming soon…. will be worth a read (for some) to see what adventures I expirienced and lived through.

PEACE OUT!!

Well what ya know…… Although the news about my wife’s letter was a great start to the month… it was as usual “too good to be true”….  No don’t get me wrong.  she is coming very soon now…. but as usual it was just another letter requesting her to mail something and then “AGAIN” await a reply from them…

The letter my wife received was a request for her passport, which will get the Visa attached and permanent residence papers drawn up or whatever they do, (perhaps they are already made they just been sitting on them all this time) apparently she has heard from others in this similar situation that when it is all ready they will give her a phone call to come pick up the passport and landing papers in person. No more guessing or foreshadowing what they will do …. we will just wait and see what ends up happening.

The years have gone..  and turned into months….  and now those months have turned into weeks..  and soon it will be just days to count when she will be finally here.  I am hoping she gets here before the end of the month, so that she and I can spend our 3rd…..  yes our 3rd Anniversary together.

I will try to keep the updates coming about my wife and once she is here I think I may have to start some sort of picture gallery as I will have to start posting pictures of our life together and the soon to come children. I know we want them we just can’t agree on the number we want.  I just say the More the merrier!!!

Just got News that My wife has finally received her letter for her visa to enter Canada…. I don’t know the contents of the letter yet but I just had to mention that final hurdle has been cleared. It’s Started off as a GREAT Nov 1st, 2007 for us!!

It is Thursday Nov 2nd and we’ll plan for here to be here by mid week next week, She should be here by Nov 6th or 7th…  I will update with more as I get an email of the contents of the letter!!

WOOT!!!!! It’s abut time!!!

Just a little note to clarify for some, when Daylight Saving Time begins and ends for us in North America.  The US Government made the changes to have more Daylight Saving Time than Standard Time to do with energy conservation.  The times we changed used to be the first Sunday of April we went forward an hour 2AM became 3AM (DST), and then the last Sunday of October we went back an hour 2AM became 1AM (Standard time).

The new changes started this year 2007 and it has basically extended DST about 3-4 weeks.  We will change an hour ahead the second Sunday of March 2AM will be 3AM, and the first Sunday of November 2AM will be 1AM.  Canada changed our time to coincide with the United States,  there is a study being done to see if the time change have any affects and once the Department of Energy reports back to The US Congress, Congress may go back to the original DST changes. We will have to see what happens when this report is completed.

Apparently many people call it “Daylight Savings time”, and the correct spelling is without the “S” in Saving it is not a plural. So try to remember it is “DAYLIGHT SAVING TIME” (DST).  So many people also can’t seem to remember when we go forward or when we go back an hour.  There is a VERY easy way to remember and once you know it I can’t see how anyone can forget it.

We go an hour ahead in Spring and we go back an hour in Fall. SPRING FORWARD…..  FALL BACK……  you may fall forward if you are very drunk…  lol but I think we are usually sober when the time change occurs. You can always change the clocks before you go to bed Saturday night and all will be set to the rest of the world when you wake up Sunday morning.. Get to work on time Monday morning too (or whatever you get up for). You can read more about it here.

REMEMBER….   SPRING FORWARD….  FALL BACK……

Yes the time has finally come….  just last week my wife had her Medical report done (for the second time) and the doctor has sent off the paper work to the Canadian Consulate in New Delhi. Now we will await a reply for them to request her Passport, and finally get her Visa Stamp for Entry into Canada and her permanent Residence papers she will require to STAY in Canada.

As many of you know (you all know now) I was married back in December 22, 2004. We applied for my wife to immigrate and thought it would take about 3-6 months for her to be approved and arrive in Canada. No such result, as luck would have it, She was denied immigration based on some VERY Superficial criteria that we here in Canada do not take into consideration for a couple to marry, in fact we (Canadians) don’t even think about the particular criteria that my wife was denied entry.

There was only one fact that I could not deny and if they had based everything on this, I wouldn’t be so upset as I am, on what we went through, to get to this point. That fact being I have been married twice before, but even that in Canadian eyes is not a huge factor at all. The apparent “officer” that dealt with my wife’s application initially had raised a few issues and they ended up contradicting themselves in later updates to the computer system they use to document everything during the application process. 

I should scan and post some of the excerpts from it (Maybe later). some of the things they denied her was our age difference. the fact that I have been in Canada since age 5 and she had never been here, I was educated here with some post secondary education and she only has a grade 12 graduation from India. and I suppose the biggest one was that I had been married before and she never married. At first they noted that our Wedding had a good gathering..  later to say there wasn’t very many present for a normal Indian wedding. 

What did they expect that I would pay for and fly all our friends and family from Canada to attend and be present at the wedding too.?? Anyway as you can see their points were very unfounded and not a huge deal to deny someone to get a visa.  They should allow all Married partners to come back home to Canada after their marriage and if needed deport them after the application process is completed and not satisfactory. almost 3 years….  I could have had 2-3 Children by now and those are 3 years I will never get to spend with my wife again.

I think I am starting to ramble now so i will close these thoughts and start another one later when we have some more concrete dates of when she will be here… but we are finally in the Final Stretch

Yep..  OMG!  I just hit the BIG “4-0″….  but as they say now…  40 is the new 20…. So just to let you all know I feel great even at the age of 40… Even though Mark Philippoussis chose Amanda the 25 year old…  Who wouldn’t.???

My wife is 13 years younger than me, and that was not out of fluke either…. My parents want grand-kids…  So to accommodate that I needed a younger wife that could deliver (at least Basketball team) and keep up with the stress of having kids… I have no real limit on how many children I want the more the merrier is the attitude I will be going forward with. My wife also has no problems (yet) I mean we talk about it all the time and she even had some palmist tell her how she will have as many kids as she wants. 

It was back in early 2004 that my parents started bugging me about getting married again (Yes again, long story tell you another time if you don’t already know the details)  anyhow they asked me if I was ready..  I replied you want to have Grandchildren??  Then you might want to find someone young enough to have them and also willing to get to know me and marry me before we talk about any children. My god we went through quite a few girls in that time..  hell I even had a choice of hooking up with a woman that was STILL married with a child already too, apparently her husband was a bad ass that beat her and had a drinking problem…She wanted me to SAVE HER!!  I was like WTF!!??  I’m looking for my future wife, not to SAVE” someone from their current marriage, needless to say that conversation didn’t last long. As did many of the others because all they seemed to want to know was if and when I wanted to marry their daughters… and I was like Hold on a minute…  if I agree to anything! it will be to get to know them more first…  perhaps for a year or two even..  and they wanted to have grandchildren by that time not just to be getting into a marriage.

After many women and girls, Oh and who can forget the “PAT” my brother-in-law came back with pictures of, I swear the pictures were not of any female that i could see.. but after those bad episodes of meeting and greeting I finally did come across my wife Kamaljit (Mira as she is known at home now) She and her family were the first to agree in allowing she and I to communicate for as long as we wanted to see how we got along…  little did Mira and I know how well we would connect and well…..  the rest as they say is history, but I will tell you the full story sometime later too maybe you can remind me. right now it creeping up to the 3rd year and we are still awaiting for some papers from Immigration Canada’s New Delhi office for her to obtain her Permanent Status Visa to Land in Canada.

So where was I.??  Oh Yeah!!!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!

Just a short but to the point post. Some of you know I went to India in Nov 2004 to get married. and My wife’s immigration to Canada was denied!! We then appealed that decision!

Now after a long 2 ½ year waiting process. I am Happy to announce that the Appeal was approved.. within 25 minutes after the star of the hearing. it went something like this….

All that was needed was my testimony on the witness stand.
as soon as my consultant finished asking me questions….
the Judge says, “Now the Immigration council will cross examine you”……..
he stood up………
Started Packing up his Briefcase…….
and says……..
“No I’m not going to ask anything, I approve the Appeal, Congratulations!”….
the Judge looks over at me and says,
“This is your Lucky day….. I also approve your appeal, this concludes the hearing”
that was 25 minutes into the whole thing…
w00t!! say it with me one time. w00t!!!